You Are Being Influenced

depthSounds ominous doesn’t it? You are being influenced. We all know that others influence us but a part of us is not entirely comfortable with that. Influence can sound like control. No one wants to be controlled.

I am not speaking about control here however but the simple fact that we are all influenced by others in our life. The great thing is that we have control over who influences us and how.

Jim Rohn said it very well:

“If you were to evaluate the major influences in your life that have shaped the kind of person you are, this has to be high on the list: the people and thoughts you choose to allow into your life. My mentor, Mr. Shoaff, gave me a very important warning in those early days that I’ll share with you. He said, “Never underestimate the power of influence.” Indeed, the influence of those around us is so powerful! Many times we don’t even realize we’re being strongly affected because influences generally develop over an extended period of time.

“Peer pressure is an especially powerful force because it is so subtle. If you’re around people who spend all they make, chances are excellent you might spend all you make. If you are around people who don’t read, chances are excellent that you probably won’t read. People can keep nudging us off course a little at a time until, finally, we find ourselves asking, How did I get here? Those subtle influences need to be studied carefully if we really want our lives to turn out the way we’ve planned”. ( posting, 07.31.16)

Who do I associate with?

You should think about spend time with. What kind of people are they? Do they lead their lives in a way you approve of?

How are these people influencing me?

It can be challenging to do this but it is important to gain insight into how others are influencing you. Are the influencing you in a positive way? Are they supportive? Or do they bring you down? Do they suggest things you know to be wrong?

What can I do about it?

If someone is a negative influence you can disassociate yourself with them. It may mean minimizing contact. If the influence is negative enough it may mean totally cutting them out of your life.

At the very least be aware of negative influence and do not allow it to guide your thinking. Spend most of your time around people who are positive and otherwise good influences on you.

Be aware of how others influence you and be selective about how much time you spend with them depending on the kind of influence they have on you. You can control that. You can associate mostly with positive people who will be a good influence on you and reduce or eliminate the negative influence in your life. 

Learn more about Jim Rohn and his teachings on personal development and creating wealth here.

Wishing you well,

Daniel R. Murphy
Educating people for building wealth, adapting to a changing future and personal development.