Taking Control of Your Life

amazing sunsetIf you properly design your goals and then execute them you can achieve anything you want. Achieving goals is not always a smooth road though.

There are two contradictory laws of human experience that cannot be denied and that heavily influence whether people take responsibility for their own lives.

“Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

The first law is that no matter what your plans may be, what you hope for, what you work for, there are always interruptions and obstacles. No matter how carefully you plan things happen you did not anticipate or perhaps could not have anticipated. These things can derail your plans temporarily or permanently. There is no denying this.

“A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with – a man is what he makes of himself.” – Alexander Graham Bell

The second law is that if you do not plan for your future either someone else will or you will drift without purpose or design. This law is often described by the quote mentioned earlier in this book: failure to plan is planning to fail. There is also no denying this. Plans and goals give structure and focus to your efforts. They allow you to make the most of your time and energy and to achieve what you want.

The problem is that people tend to accept one of these laws and not the other. Those that focus only on the first law are reluctant to make plans or adopt goals because “it does not matter” as life will deal you a different hand than you had planned for.

Other people focus only on the second law and make plans with blissful faith that no matter what happens they will achieve what they set out to achieve.

If we had to choose which one of those people to be we should choose that latter – the person who focuses on the second law. The only danger in doing that is the disappointment and discouragement that can arise when despite the best laid plans things do not go as planned.

The solution is to accept both laws. Accept the reality that you will achieve more if you plan and pursue goals. But also accept that things will not always go as planned.

As I discuss elsewhere in this book mid-course corrections are almost always needed for goals. It is great to be a dreamer; it is essential to achieve great things. But it is also important to be realistic.

Goals and planning help you direct your own life. They give you power over yourself. But they guarantee nothing. Life is full of uncertainty. Accept this and move on and you will suffer far less disappointment and discouragement in life.

Read more about how to use Goals to gain control over your life and achieve your dreams in my book, Goal Power!

Wishing you well,

Daniel R. Murphy
Educating people for building wealth, adapting to a changing future and personal development.