Tom Peters has said this: “Spend 90% of your time growing and tending your base of allies; waste not your precious effort on adversaries.” This is very valuable advice. Too often people focus on “defeating” their adversaries or seeking revenge. It sucks away their energy, makes them look petty and deters them from productive activity.
Here are some of the best reasons to devote your time and energy to your allies and not your adversaries:
1. Making friends contributes to your peace of mind. Working with others can produce far more than working alone. Time spent cultivating friends or “allies” is far more beneficial than time spent worrying about “adversaries”.
2. In many cases the people we think are our adversaries actually spend little time thinking about us. They are too consumed with their own problems and lives.
3. Time spent battling enemies defeats one’s own sense of peace and corrodes a positive mental attitude. This is self-defeating because a consistently positive mental attitude is a powerful tool in success. Few negative people sustain success.
4. There is more to life than business or competition. Friendship is rewarding in itself and contributes to our quality of life. As the old saw goes, a rich man is a man with many friends.
5. While you are battling adversaries others are watching and they mostly do not like what they see. They trust you less and are less likely to get involved with you either in business or as a friend.
Life is short. It is better spent reveling in friendship than suffering in adversity. As Abraham Lincoln observed, there is far more to be gained turning an adversary into a friend… and he practiced that like a fine art.
Daniel R. Murphy
Daniel R. Murphy
Educating people for building wealth, adapting to a changing future and personal development.