Humility is a virtue; timidity is an illness – Jim Rohn
Here is the bad news and the good news about self confidence. The bad news is that you need self confidence to be successful. A constant lack of confidence in yourself, constant self doubting and hesitation, and constant timidity will kill your potential to succeed. Here is the good news: anyone can gain self confidence if they truly want it and do the work to get it.
Self confidence, by the way, is not about arrogance or conceit or being presumptuous. Self confidence is knowing yourself and your limitations well enough to know you can do many things and you can learn to do many more things. It is knowing that the only limits you truly have are those you set for yourself!
A few children do grow up brimming with self confidence. A few more grow up with so little self esteem they lack self confidence to accomplish anything. Most people fall somewhere in the middle, as you probably do. Those in the first group can skip this chapter. For all the rest building self confidence really comes from 4 steps:
First resolve in your own mind that you can be successful at whatever you wish to succeed in. Choose a modest goal at first, something that nearly anyone can do, and then pursue it with certainty that you can achieve it.
Second, make a careful study of what you need in order to succeed at your goal. What materials, skills, time, and other things do you need to succeed. Get them.
Third, plan your success. Learn from others who have succeeded in similar ways and learn all you can about the subject you are seeking to succeed in.
Fourth, take action. Work your plan. Adjust it as necessary but don’t waiver, don’t quit. Here perseverance is key. As Churchill said, never, never, never, never, never give up. The experience of sticking with a project and overcoming every obstacle does amazing things to your self confidence. You learn from your own experience that you can do it, and that gives you self confidence big time.
Then you move on to the next goal, a bigger one, and then the next, etc. You will experience setbacks and “failures”. Successful people do not let those setbacks stop them – they keep moving forward. Keep that as your mantra:
No matter what happens I shall keep moving forward.
You will build on your successes and as you do your self confidence will weather the setbacks and the occasional failures. You will build self confidence, one goal at a time, until you are confident enough to take on anything you want.
If you don’t like who you are and where you are, don’t worry about it because you’re not stuck either with who you are or where you are. You can grow. You can change. You can be more than you are. – Zig Ziglar
You can! Anyone can. That is the good news. Don’t delay. Start that process today.
Daniel R. Murphy
Daniel R. Murphy
Educating people for building wealth, adapting to a changing future and personal development.